So it was a lovely Sunday. D1 and the boys and Lemon the Spaniel and Betsy the enormous puppy and her Mom D2 came by in the afternoon -- leaving D2 and Betsy and taking the boys and Lemon to Coral Reef Park for a playdate. D1 texted when she was on her way back, and I ordered Anthony's Coal Fired, and everyone sat around munching on pizza and wings and meatballs and salad. The happy, well fed crew left, and Wifey and I settled in to watch some "Mobland," and English themed Sopranos, and then headed upstairs for the season finale of "White Lotus" which has become our go-to show.
After it ended, and we discussed the fates of the spoiled rich white people infused with some Buddhist wisdom, I depressed myself a bit reading about today's stock futures, which may well portend another Black Monday. Truth is, since I am my Dad's son and never really trust the Stock Market, the losses will not affect our daily lives (if savings and muni bonds tank -- uh oh!), but still, it's no fun to watch my Merrill Balances tumble from the heights. Hopefully they bounce back, like they did from our first Black Monday.
That was 1987, and Wifey and I opened our first brokerage account, with Ronnie, a Drexel Burnham guy who was Wifey's co worker Kathy's husband. They were SO much richer than we -- huge house in Pinecrest -- wedding at Grove Isle -- BMWs. Ronnie was smart, a South American Jewish guy who had gone to Bentley, I think, and Wifey and my total life savings, other than our house which had small equity, was $9K -- my IRA with $2K, and Wifey's with $7K. We opened the accounts in late September, and took a trip to D.C. to visit Wifey's friend from FSU Dolly. When we toured the Capitol Building on Monday, I noticed most of the Congresspeople were gone -- later, in a Pub, I learned why: Black Monday.
We returned to find our $9K nest egg was worth probably less than $7K. I freaked, but Ronnie told me to stay the course, and I did, as an investor, ever since. Of course, Drexel went out of business, Ronnie and Kathy divorced, and we lost touch. These days, I'm happy when a monthly AMEX bill is close to $9K -- so things have changed, a lot. Hopefully Trump doesn't push us totally into a depression this time --I'm getting too old to do manual labor. No -- I AM too old to do manual labor.
Anyway, I kept reading online, and I came across an article about a guy my age named Kevin McMahon, born in Queens at Jamaica Hospital minutes after another baby McMahon was born there, and, sure enough, it turned out the babies were switched! The other baby was named Ross.
Ross ended up having a great childhood, with a loving family, but Kevin's father and paternal grandmother always treated him like the proverbial "red headed stepkid." They KNEW he wasn't their biological kin - -he was much darker in eyes and complexion -- and abused and treated him awfully. Grandma always suspected that her daughter in law had had an affair, and convinced her son of that, and so poor Kevin suffered his entire life.
His sister learned the truth through genetic online testing -- it showed she had a full brother -- the REAL McMahon, it turned out. All 4 parents are dead, and Kevin is suing Jamaica Hospital for the mix up -- he ended up doing ok, it seems, and he has met his biological siblings.
Of course the awful part of the story is how badly Dad and Grandma treated him just because they FELT he wasn't biologically connected. Ross McMahon was the one who lucked out -- he ended up with the loving, accepting family, even though he was the only blue eyed blonde.
These stories will only increase as more people get the DNA tests, although I suspect most of the "scandals" will be more of the great reggae song variety: "Your poppa not your poppa but your poppa don't know."
This caused me to reflect: maybe I was switched at Long Island Jewish Hospital in July, 1961, and truly belonged to one of the elite Ashkenazim from The Five Towns, or Great Neck, instead of my middle class family from Glenn Oaks. Hmm..I could have been handed everything, instead of working from age 12 to, really, about 5 years ago -- I STILL work, though only very part time. Hell -- I just assumed the role of private counsel for a good doctor friend being sued who has no insurance -- though Norman is the one getting paid and will do the real defense...
But I'm glad the way things worked out. Had I been to the Great Neck Manor born, maybe I'd have become a total douchebag, and instead of making the great friends who went to UM on scholarship, had MORE douchy friends who went to places like Duke. I might be still running my Dad's company...who knows?
All I know is, the luckiest part of my childhood is that I always felt PLENTY loved, and a strong sense of belonging. As I grew, my older than the others Dad and I became truly best friends. I loved and adored him so. Plus, I look a lot like him -- so pretty confident LIJ got it correct.
Another week begins. Speaking of UM, Wifey and I had planned to attend UM's Centennial, with open house and a concert by Music School alums, with Kenny and Joelle, neither of whom are alums. But when I told Wifey there'd be lots of walking -- she opted for Door #2 -- just dinner with our dear friends. And that's fine with me. I'll just plan on attending the Bicentennial...